After I came back to the Lord and started going to church my eyes were open to the power of God’s word and how important it was for me to Declare God’s word over my children. Before I met my husband I was a single mom and I had the awesome opportunity to take my children to school every morning, so during the car ride they always heard me declaring God’s word over them.
I bet if you asked them to this day what I spoke over them they could probably repeat most of it from memory. 🙂
I was just feeling led to share this with you all because I know sometimes it can be hard figuring out what to pray over our children.
This prayer or declaration if you will, is just the beginning of course. Our children are all so different and need us to pray specific prayers for the battles they are facing.
Our prayers for them can not be this cookie cutter thing and sometimes it takes some real digging into the scriptures to find the word of God that needs to be declared over them.
The following declaration is just something I either heard or read along the way, but it stuck with me and is very powerful when spoken with faith.
I’ve highlighted the Declaration/Prayer in bold but have given the scripture reference along the way.
You are the Head and not the Tail You are above only and not beneath
(Deuteronomy 28:13 – The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.)
You are blessed going in and blessed coming out (Deuteronomy 28:6 – “You will be blessed when you come in and blessed when you go out.) You are empowered to prosper
I place on you the mind of Christ and you have the wisdom of God (1 Corinthians 2:16 – “For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.” & James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”)
I plead the blood of Jesus over you from the top of your head to the soles of your feet. I thank you Father God for giving your angels charge over them that they would bear them up in their arms lest they dash their feet against a stone. (Psalm 91:11-12 – “For he shall give his angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways. They shall bear you up in their hands, lest you dash your foot against a stone.”)
I place on you the all armor of God The helmet of Salvation to guard their thoughts The breastplate of righteousness I gird up their loins with the belt of truth and shod their feet with the preparation of the Gospel of peace. In one hand I place the sword of the spirit which is quicker and sharper then any two edged sword that it would cut to the dividing asunder of spirit and soul and in the other hand I place the shield of faith to quench every fiery dart the enemy would send their way. (Ephesians 6:13-17 – “Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”)
You have been bought with the highest price and that is the blood of Jesus.(I Corinthians 6:20 – “For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”) You are sealed unto the day of redemption and no plague or calamity shall come near your dwelling.(Psalm 91:10 – “no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.”)
In Jesus name ~ Amen!
Then of course I would tell them to have a wonderful day, that I loved them so very much and would see them later. 🙂
Oh how I miss those days! They are gone way to fast and we never get them back. Throughout the years God has been ever so faithful to my prayers and though two of my children have strayed from the faith, God is faithful and just and is always looking over his word to perform it.
I continue to Declare God’s word over my children, it’s just now in this season of their lives I pray different prayers for each of their situations. 🙂
Below are some of the books I personally used to learn how to pray and declare God’s word not only over my children but also my husband, my friends, my family and even myself. What books or resources have you used that have been a blessing to you?
Is there something you declare over your children everyday? Maybe a prayer you pray for them in the morning or night. Share it with us, you never know who it might help.
I can’t believe it has taken me this long to let it go.
All these years I have allowed it to consume me, anger me, frustrate me and literally brought me to tears. Yes, even tears!
I use to love washing the dark clothes being that it consisted mostly of jeans which are so easy to separate, fold and put away.
That was until I had kids!
I would cringe when that day rolled around twice a week. Before I go on, I want you to keep in mind that we all do laundry differently and I was raised to turn all my laundry right-side-out, Momma knows best right?
Now that we got that out of the way… When it was time to do the dark laundry I would always ask my kids to bring me their dark clothes with their jeans right-side-out. Inevitable they would bring them to me inside out and I would do one of two things:
I would gripe and complain the entire time I was pulling them right-side out or
I would throw them back in their room to have them do it. Of course that always slowed the laundry process down because I had to wait on them so let me be honest, majority of the time I just did it while complaining the whole time.
Of course while I was complaining I was also crying, silently or sometimes out loud, of how I don’t feel loved by my kids and why can’t they do this simple little task to make my life so much easier. The crying didn’t happen all the time but the frustration did.
I’m not proud of this but the fact of the matter is, this went on up until just a month ago. Mind you my 21 yr. old son and 19 yr. old daughter are out of the house which leaves me with my youngest who is 15 yrs. old. It just so happens that she doesn’t understand this concept of right-side out either.
So last month I have a few dark clothes that need to be cleaned but in order to have a full load I asked my daughter to bring me some of her dark’s. What do you think she does?
You got it! She brought me her jeans, all 4 pairs INSIDE OUT! My first thought was to give them back to her but I thought twice and asked myself if it really matters that they are inside out. Without griping or complaining I threw them in the washer, then in the dryer then came the folding.
Instead of pulling the legs through and folding it right side out so it looks nice and she knows which jeans are which I decided that after all these years I needed to let it go and just fold the darn jeans and send them off to her room.
You know what the funny part is? I didn’t even think about it until I saw her with one of those pair of jean on that she HAD to put those jeans right-side out in order to put them on and at that moment I knew I had finally WON the war!
I share this story with you for two reasons really.
First, if you are like I am when it comes to laundry and feel like you have to have your clothes right-side out but your children are just not working with you, wash it like that, fold it like that and let them sort it out. They will get the picture that either way THEY will be turning those clothes right-side out.
Second, let it go and Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Seriously, when you look back on this time with your children you’ll realize there were things you could have let go and been so much happier just enjoying your time with them.
As a matter of fact I know while reading this you probably thought of at least 5 things (I know I’m still working on some of them) you could let go of and have more happiness in your life, less stress, and more time with your children. Share with me in the comments below some of the things that popped in your head and how can you let them go?
In the end, when it’s all said and done:
A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child. ~ Forest E Whitcraft
To all you Moms out there that are part of the Motherhood of the Inside Out Pants! You ROCK!
If you will only open your eyes and ears to the scriptures you will see exactly what God says about you. To many times we are bombarded by the voice of the enemy when we need to be listening to that still small voice of our shepard.
That voice that calms us, encourages us, leads us, guides us and wants us to know that we are so loved. As you read these scriptures, meditate on what God says about you. Close your ears to what the enemy tries to get you to believe and open your ears to what the Holy Spirit wants you so desperately to understand.
If you must print this page out and every day I want you to repeat, out loud who God says you are. For we know that “Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.” So speak it forth and don’t stop until you truly believe in your heart everything he says about you.
I am the salt of the earth (Matthew 5:13)
I am the light of the earth (Matthew 5:14)
I am God’s child (John 1:12, Romans 8:14-16 & 1 John 3:1-3)
I am a branch of the true vine, and channel of his life (John 15:1,5)
I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit (John 15:16)
I am a personal witness of Christ’s (Acts 1:8)
I am God’s temple (1 Corinthians 3:16)
I am a member of Christ’s body (1 Corinthians 12:27)
I am a minister of reconciliation for God (2 Corinthians 5:17,18)
I am God’s co-worker (2 Corinthians 6:1)
I am a saint (Ephesians 1:1)
I have been raised up and seated with Christ (Ephesians 2:6)
I am God’s workmanship (Ephesians 2:10)
I am a citizen of Heaven (Philippians 3:20)
I am a friend of Jesus Christ (John 15:15)
I have been justified (Romans 5:1)
I am joined to the Lord and am one spirit with him (1 Corinthians 6:17)
I have been bought with a price, I belong to God (1 Corinthians 6:20)
I am a member of Christ’s body (1 Corinthians 12:27)
I have been made righteous (2 Corinthians 5:21)
I have been adopted as God’s child (Ephesians 1:5)
I have direct access to God through the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 2:18)
I am of God’s household & am a fellow citizen with the rest of the saints (Ephesians 2:19)
I may approach God with boldness and confidence (Ephesians 3:12)
I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins (Colossians 1:14)
I am complete in Christ (Colossians 2:10)
I am a child of God (John 1:12)
I am assured that ALL things work together for good because I love God (Romans 8:28)
I can not be separated from the love of God (Romans 8:35)
I am free forever from condemnation (Romans 8:1)
I am free from any condemning charges against me (Romans 8:33)
I have been established, anointed and sealed by God (2 Corinthians 1:21)
I have been given the Holy Spirit as a pledge, guaranteeing my inheritance to come (Ephesians 1:13,14)
I have been delivered from the domain of darkness and transferred to the kingdom of Christ (Colossians 1:13)
Now the next time the devil tries to lie to you and tries to make you believe those lies, take these scriptures and jam them down his throat. Keep repeating them hour after hour, day after day, month after month or even year after year! Just repeat them as many times as you need so that you know that you know what our daddy heaven has to say about you.
When reading this devotion I was led to read Psalm 77 in its entirety and it really hit home to me. When we focus on our circumstances we get to burdened and weighed down but when we think/meditate on what God has done for us it builds our spirits back up.
Read Psalm 77 below.
1 I cried out to God for help;
I cried out to God to hear me. 2 When I was in distress, I sought the Lord;
at night I stretched out untiring hands,
and I would not be comforted.
3 I remembered you, God, and I groaned;
I meditated, and my spirit grew faint. 4 You kept my eyes from closing;
I was too troubled to speak. 5 I thought about the former days,
the years of long ago; 6 I remembered my songs in the night.
My heart meditated and my spirit asked:
7 “Will the Lord reject forever?
Will he never show his favor again? 8 Has his unfailing love vanished forever?
Has his promise failed for all time? 9 Has God forgotten to be merciful?
Has he in anger withheld his compassion?”
10 Then I thought, “To this I will appeal:
the years when the Most High stretched out his right hand. 11 I will remember the deeds of the Lord;
yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago. 12 I will consider all your works
and meditate on all your mighty deeds.”
13 Your ways, God, are holy.
What god is as great as our God? 14 You are the God who performs miracles;
you display your power among the peoples. 15 With your mighty arm you redeemed your people,
the descendants of Jacob and Joseph.
16 The waters saw you, God,
the waters saw you and writhed;
the very depths were convulsed. 17 The clouds poured down water,
the heavens resounded with thunder;
your arrows flashed back and forth. 18 Your thunder was heard in the whirlwind,
your lightning lit up the world;
the earth trembled and quaked. 19 Your path led through the sea,
your way through the mighty waters,
though your footprints were not seen.
20 You led your people like a flock
by the hand of Moses and Aaron.
I challenge you today, to not give Satan one more moment of your time by dwelling on your circumstances. Grab paper and pen, get away to a quiet place, even if it’s the restroom, and write down all the things that God has done for you. Start meditating on how good our God is and how faithful he has been to you and your family.
I promise you that your entire attitude, your entire outlook, your entire being will be strengthened and you will rise above the circumstances and our God WILL prevail.
Let’s face it…one of our biggest fears is the death of a loved one and having to go on without them. The grief can be sometimes unbearable and doesn’t end quick enough.
I know this grief all to well because I lost my Mom to cancer on August 13, 2006 and my brother to cancer (on my birthday) August 9, 2012.
Up until my mom died I really hadn’t lost anyone that close to me and of course the first person I lose is my best friend, my momma, my confidant, my prayer partner…my everything!
The first year was the worst! I walked around like a zombie. I would be driving and forget where I was going. I would forget my zip code for my debit card, I misplaced my keys all the time, I stopped home schooling my kids and I fell into a deep dark depression.
It was through reading books that I realized I was not alone and my grieving process was just that…a process! I have such a stronger sense of what death really means to the Christian. It’s not death at all but LIFE. A life we pray we will have here on this earth all the time. A life with no more worries, struggles, illnesses, failures, disappointments and tragedy. A life of joy, peace, harmony, happiness, wholeness and a love that is so much deeper than we can even fathom.
I’ve compiled a list of best-selling books that I pray will help you in your time of grieving.
List of Books on Coping with Death and Grief
1. Journeying Through Grief (4-pack set)
4.8 out of 5 stars
These books were so instrumental in the grieving process I went through when my Mom passed away. There are four books to this set that you can either give to those who are grieving or read for yourself at the four crucial times during the first year after a loss.
Book 1: A Time to Grieve (send/read 3 weeks after the loss) Book 2: Experiencing Grief (send/read 3 months after the loss) Book 3: Finding Hope and Healing (send/read 6 months after the loss) Book 4: Rebuilding and Remembering (send/read 12 months after the loss)
When I read each book it was like God was ministering right to me and letting me know that what I was going through was normal and expected. The first year of loosing someone can be the hardest because you’re experiencing things without them being there. These books help you understand the feelings and emotions you are going through and encourages you to take the time you need to grieve and to continue to life to the fullest.
What others are saying about this book:
What a blessing they have been
I’m looking to buy some to give to grieving friends and family when needed.
2. Through a Season of Grief: Devotions for Your Journey from Mourning to Joy
5 out of 5 stars
If you’ve lost a spouse, child, family member, or friend, you’ve discovered that few people understand the deep hurt you feel.
Where do you turn for daily comfort and help? Where do you find the tools to move forward? Through a Season of Grief is the first 365-day devotional designed to support and uplift you in the first, most difficult year of bereavement.
These devotions offer biblical comfort and practical teaching that will enable you to take steps forward each day toward healing. You will better understand the grieving process and will receive needed encouragement along the way.
More than thirty respected Christian professionals – including Kay Arthur, Jack Hayford, Elisabeth Elliot, Norman Wright, Barbara Johnson, and Luis Palau – share their insights on how to walk through the devastation of grief toward wholeness and hope. You will also hear from people like you who have lost a loved one and have found God’s healing presence in the midst of despair.
This unique devotional is based on GriefShare®, a national grief recovery support group program that has helped more than 100,000 families.
What others are saying about this book:
This book is very helpful, especially in the first stages of grief and loss.
It is a devotional book to read a small section each day for a year.
3. Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief
4.9 out of 5 stars
For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are strength and thoughtful words to inspire and comfort.
For those recovering from the death of a loved one, here is a collection of daily affirmations and meditations to ease the grieving process and pave the way for healing to begin.
This book offers 365 days of inspirational quotes, short thoughts and stories and positive, uplifting thoughts for the day. As you’re reading these daily meditations you are provided with hope and comfort and know that every emotion you are experiencing is completely normal.
Through the loss of her own child, Martha Whitmore Hickman is able to walk beside us through this grieving process always letting us know that there is no time limit on grief and with her gentle inspiring words on the pages we are given hope and reassurance that we are not alone. 🙂
What others are saying about this book:
Tiny shafts of light in the darkness…
I’m not alone when I’m with Healing After Loss
This book is a MUST for anyone who has lost a loved one
helps heal the pain, bit by bit, step by step, day by day
4. A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others are Celebrating
4.8 out of 5 Stars
A Decembered Grief is designed to guide you on a journey beyond grief. In this book, the author Harold Ivan Smith shows you how to change up your families traditions instead of abandoning them altogether.
We are taught to appreciate the grief styles of others along with embracing the journey of grief and not dreading it.
Suffering the loss of a loved one at any time of the year is difficult, yet during the holidays or special occasions, those grieving experience a more intense sense of loss. The world is moving forward and celebrating life and all its blessings, yet for grievers, a darkness pervades the holiday.
This book is an invitation to enjoy Christmas and its companion holidays again. Even when grief overwhelms learn to move forward and celebrate life. Learn to survive the darkness that robs joy from the holiday season for many grievers.
What others are saying about this book:
Excellent Gift for Holiday Grief
Good Ideas for people facing holidays after a significant loss
5. Gone but Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child
4.8 out of 5 Stars
We all expect our parents to precede us in death. No one expects to have to make their child’s funeral arrangements. And the loss of a child brings with it a special and persistent manifestation of grief that can feel “like a stomach-ache that never ends.”
Gone but Not Lost is a thoughtful gift for a family that has experienced the death of a child. Each of its brief chapters covers one element of grief, bringing the grieving through sorrow and helping them deal with feelings of anger or guilt as well as the marital strain that may follow the loss of a beloved child.
This helpful resource has been revised and updated to bring comfort to a new generation.
What others are saying about this book:
I am able to pick it up and read a couple of chapters, cry, pick it up again and continue on.
I am not good with expressing my feelings to other people, so it helps to read about what I am going to be feeling and that it is ok to be feeling this way.
6. From One Widow to Another: Conversations on the New You
4.6 out of 5 Stars
The statistics are staggering, 800,000 people become widows or widowers every single year in the United States alone. To become a “Widow” is one title women do not want to have.
When a woman looses her husband if feels like the very essence of her being is taken away from her. All she knew, all she lived for is gone in an instant and now she is left to redefine herself as a “Widow”.
As she struggles to accept her role as a widow, Miriam Neff understands the ride and recognizes the need for women to hear from others about their experiences along with what helped them transition to this new stage of life.
From One Widow to Another offers practical advice for those facing the loss of a spouse. Drawing from her own loss, Miriam walks with you through this book and leaves you with a sense of encouragement.
What others are saying about this book:
Such helpful and practical advice for those of us on this sad journey…
If you had to put together a Top 5 List of the Best books on Grieving what would it be?
Are you grieving over the loss of a loved one, maybe a relationship or even the loss of a job? Would you like prayer? I’d love to pray for you. Leave me a comment below or send me a private message and I promise you I will pray for you and your situation.
Since Thanksgiving and continuing into the month of December, my husband Gary and I have been enjoying watching Christmas-themed movies and other programs. One of our seasonal favorites is “Elf“, starring Will Ferrell. If any actor or actress captured the essence of being filled with silliness and a sense of child-like wonder, Will Farrell did, as the over-grown elf named Buddy who eventually won over everyone who initially found his innocent behavior to be extremely annoying.
In the same week, I stumbled upon the 75th anniversary of Radio City Music Hall’s Christmas Spectacular starring the world-renown Rockettes. I dare say it was probably just as good, if not better, seeing it aired on our large flat screened TV, than being there in person, because of all the great camera angles, some which took you right up on stage, than you’d ever see from your theater seat. What especially warmed my heart was when the cameras would pan the audience and capture the faces of the many children watching the show, with their eyes wide and their little mouths gaped open as they took in all the magic happening right before them, and exhibiting thatunmistakable look of awe-struck wonder.
As children, it’s easy to wonder about so many things – we’re young and there’s always some new marvel grabbing our attention, so to be in a state of wonder is not something that has to be conjured up – it just comes naturally. But as we grow older and face many of life’s challenges and the daily grind, we tend to lose our sense of wonder just trying to make it from one day to the next. I was in just such a place of outright weariness when at the age of 41, the magical feeling of wonder took me by surprise when I made my very first visit to Disney World where my husband had made reservations for us to stay at The Wilderness Lodge. When we first walked into that palatial four-story structure made entirely of logs, which had been trimmed to the brim for the Christmas season, the sense of wonder struck me so hard, it was as if someone had suddenly thrown me a 25 pound medicine ball, that for several minutes I was truly speechless as I slowly turned in a 360 degree circle and I took it all in; and I’m sure how I felt at that moment must of been the same as any five year old at the sight of the Magic Kingdom on that very same day! My husband had visited Disney World many times before, so for him, his thrill and delight was seeing the awe and wonder on my face and in my eyes.
I think as we grow older we have to make more of an effort to find and put into practice the “art of wonder”, and thankfully, having children and grandchildren helps us rekindle wonder as we watch and experience with them, as my husband did with my reaction at The Wilderness Lodge, all things new.
And I don’t think God ever wants His children to lose their sense of wonder. Just as parents and grandparents delight in the wonder of their little ones, so too, I believe God delights when we wonder in Him and about Him, which got me to thinking about snowflakes the other day, which, in turn, reminded me of these scripture verses,
Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made”, John 1:3
For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities–his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse”, Romans 1:20
My childhood years were spent in the northeast and every winter we had tremendous amounts of snow and there were some days, when the conditions were just right, while it was still snowing, I’d go outside, all bundled up, and catch crystallized snowflakes in my opened hand. I’d look ever so closely at those tiny, fragile flakes of snow and could actually see the intricate six pointed designs with my naked eye! Even if I had stood outside all day long and captured thousands of them, each one of them would of been different from any other snowflake that fell that day, from all the snowflakes that ever fell, all over the world, since time began! The more I contemplated this, the more the wonder grew and my eyes got wider and my jaw dropped and I’m thinking that my Heavenly Father was taking just as much delight in my reaction, as I was in His creation! That’s the wonder our Abba Father wants us to revel in – these are Hisinvisible attributes. His eternal power, His divine nature which are clearly seenin a single snowflake!
So, as we peer into the manger and set our gaze upon the babe, the One through whom all things were made, may our sense of wonder fill our hearts that will take us far beyond this Christmas season, and even more so… may be renewed by the “Wonder Of His Love”.