After I came back to the Lord and started going to church my eyes were open to the power of God’s word and how important it was for me to Declare God’s word over my children. Before I met my husband I was a single mom and I had the awesome opportunity to take my children to school every morning, so during the car ride they always heard me declaring God’s word over them.
I bet if you asked them to this day what I spoke over them they could probably repeat most of it from memory. 🙂
I was just feeling led to share this with you all because I know sometimes it can be hard figuring out what to pray over our children.
This prayer or declaration if you will, is just the beginning of course. Our children are all so different and need us to pray specific prayers for the battles they are facing.
Our prayers for them can not be this cookie cutter thing and sometimes it takes some real digging into the scriptures to find the word of God that needs to be declared over them.
The following declaration is just something I either heard or read along the way, but it stuck with me and is very powerful when spoken with faith.
I’ve highlighted the Declaration/Prayer in bold but have given the scripture reference along the way.
You are the Head and not the Tail
You are above only and not beneath
(Deuteronomy 28:13 – The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.)
You are blessed going in and blessed coming out (Deuteronomy 28:6 – “You will be blessed when you come in and blessed when you go out.)
You are empowered to prosper
I place on you the mind of Christ and you have the wisdom of God (1 Corinthians 2:16 – “For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.” & James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”)
I plead the blood of Jesus over you from the top of your head to the soles of your feet.
I thank you Father God for giving your angels charge over them that they would bear them up in their arms lest they dash their feet against a stone. (Psalm 91:11-12 – “For he shall give his angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways. They shall bear you up in their hands, lest you dash your foot against a stone.”)
I place on you the all armor of God
The helmet of Salvation to guard their thoughts
The breastplate of righteousness
I gird up their loins with the belt of truth and shod their feet with the preparation of the Gospel of peace.
In one hand I place the sword of the spirit which is quicker and sharper then any two edged sword that it would cut to the dividing asunder of spirit and soul
and in the other hand I place the shield of faith to quench every fiery dart the enemy would send their way. (Ephesians 6:13-17 – “Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”)
You have been bought with the highest price and that is the blood of Jesus.(I Corinthians 6:20 – “For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”)
You are sealed unto the day of redemption and no plague or calamity shall come near your dwelling.(Psalm 91:10 – “no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.”)
In Jesus name ~ Amen!
Then of course I would tell them to have a wonderful day, that I loved them so very much and would see them later. 🙂
Oh how I miss those days! They are gone way to fast and we never get them back. Throughout the years God has been ever so faithful to my prayers and though two of my children have strayed from the faith, God is faithful and just and is always looking over his word to perform it.
I continue to Declare God’s word over my children, it’s just now in this season of their lives I pray different prayers for each of their situations. 🙂
Below are some of the books I personally used to learn how to pray and declare God’s word not only over my children but also my husband, my friends, my family and even myself. What books or resources have you used that have been a blessing to you?
Is there something you declare over your children everyday? Maybe a prayer you pray for them in the morning or night. Share it with us, you never know who it might help.
I can’t believe it has taken me this long to let it go.
All these years I have allowed it to consume me, anger me, frustrate me and literally brought me to tears. Yes, even tears!
I use to love washing the dark clothes being that it consisted mostly of jeans which are so easy to separate, fold and put away.
That was until I had kids!
I would cringe when that day rolled around twice a week. Before I go on, I want you to keep in mind that we all do laundry differently and I was raised to turn all my laundry right-side-out, Momma knows best right?
Now that we got that out of the way… When it was time to do the dark laundry I would always ask my kids to bring me their dark clothes with their jeans right-side-out. Inevitable they would bring them to me inside out and I would do one of two things:
- I would gripe and complain the entire time I was pulling them right-side out or
- I would throw them back in their room to have them do it. Of course that always slowed the laundry process down because I had to wait on them so let me be honest, majority of the time I just did it while complaining the whole time.
Of course while I was complaining I was also crying, silently or sometimes out loud, of how I don’t feel loved by my kids and why can’t they do this simple little task to make my life so much easier. The crying didn’t happen all the time but the frustration did.
I’m not proud of this but the fact of the matter is, this went on up until just a month ago. Mind you my 21 yr. old son and 19 yr. old daughter are out of the house which leaves me with my youngest who is 15 yrs. old. It just so happens that she doesn’t understand this concept of right-side out either.
So last month I have a few dark clothes that need to be cleaned but in order to have a full load I asked my daughter to bring me some of her dark’s. What do you think she does?
You got it! She brought me her jeans, all 4 pairs INSIDE OUT! My first thought was to give them back to her but I thought twice and asked myself if it really matters that they are inside out. Without griping or complaining I threw them in the washer, then in the dryer then came the folding.
Instead of pulling the legs through and folding it right side out so it looks nice and she knows which jeans are which I decided that after all these years I needed to let it go and just fold the darn jeans and send them off to her room.
You know what the funny part is? I didn’t even think about it until I saw her with one of those pair of jean on that she HAD to put those jeans right-side out in order to put them on and at that moment I knew I had finally WON the war!
I share this story with you for two reasons really.
First, if you are like I am when it comes to laundry and feel like you have to have your clothes right-side out but your children are just not working with you, wash it like that, fold it like that and let them sort it out. They will get the picture that either way THEY will be turning those clothes right-side out.
Second, let it go and Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Seriously, when you look back on this time with your children you’ll realize there were things you could have let go and been so much happier just enjoying your time with them.
As a matter of fact I know while reading this you probably thought of at least 5 things (I know I’m still working on some of them) you could let go of and have more happiness in your life, less stress, and more time with your children. Share with me in the comments below some of the things that popped in your head and how can you let them go?
In the end, when it’s all said and done:
A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child. ~ Forest E Whitcraft
To all you Moms out there that are part of the Motherhood of the Inside Out Pants! You ROCK!
DESCRIPTION: Ellen Huntington was a happily married mother of two when 17-year-old Josh entered her life. As Ellen deals with Josh’s past issues of abandonment, abuse, and dysfunction, she digs deep into her faith to survive in an unfamiliar world. After all the heart-wrenching struggles Ellen and Josh endured, is Ellen’s unconditional love enough or will Josh give up it all?
When I purchased this book I was really thinking about a dear friend of mine that is about to embark on a new journey in her life. Her and her husband, after raising two boys of their own, are becoming foster parents this month (January 2013) so I thought maybe this book could really minister to her.
Well, of course after reading the description I couldn’t pass it on before I read it myself. 🙂
MY REVIEW: You know what I loved most about this book? The complete transparency that Ellen Huntington shows through out it. There is no sugar-coating in this book. It is a raw emotion that leaps off the page and makes you feel like you are living it with her. Unlike other books where you feel like the author is talking at you, Ellen unveils her story as if she were sitting right in front of you and sharing it with you.
Ellen walks you through the highs and lows, the hopes and fears, the trials and triumphs of being first Josh’s mentor, then his mother. This book opened my eyes even further to the fact that so many of our youth are walking around in torment seeking and longing for someone just to love them and that is exactly what Ellen did so unselfishly for Josh…she loved him right where he was at.
Once Josh was able to open up about one particular memory he had at the age of 4 Yrs. old it seemed like the memories for Josh came rushing in like a damn had broken. My heart just broke for him and I can honestly say that I cried for this little boy. :'( From counselor visits, sleepless nights, comforting, consoling and crying out to God Ellen shows what it means to love unconditionally.
One other thing that I really appreciated about this book is that it intermingled the thoughts, feelings, and struggles that her husband, two son’s and close friends went through as well. I have always wondered, when reading other people’s testimony, how the family coped with everything. You hear the authors side of what was going on but you never get to peek into the lives of those it affected as well. This book gives you that glimpse into the lives of those that walked with Ellen and Josh throughout this journey.
Unlike movies that have an ending, this book is still in the process of writing its own ending. I pray that through God’s love, mercy and grace Josh would finally be set free from the tormenting spirits that have haunted him for far too long and that one day Josh will be able to write the ending to this story!
If you are called to mentor teenagers, become a foster parent, adopt a child or even have children of your own, you don’t want to pass up reading this book. It will inspire you and give you hope.
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For more information about the author Ellen Huntington visit her site here: http://ellenhuntingtonauthor.com/
Have you ever prayed for something and your prayers were answered in the most amazing way?
I have! So on this 4th day of #30DaysofPraise I have to share with you how awesome our God is and how if we truly trust him to answer our prayers when and how he feels is best for us, we’ll never doubt him.
It was just about 2 years ago I received a call from my son Shane saying that his ex-girlfriend called and told him that she was pregnant with his child. This didn’t really surprise me but I’ll be honest I was deeply saddened because I had this vision of my kids getting married THEN having children. I knew in my spirit that it was his baby even though there was some talk that it might not be.
Shane and her were not getting back together but the mom wanted me to be a part of the baby’s life so she sent me a friend request on Facebook and I was able to watch my grand baby grow within her belly.
Then one day she was not only not my friend she had blocked me. I was devastated! I called my son and I remember him saying something about him not wanting to be in his baby’s life and that he didn’t think it was even his. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. There were so many other rumors I heard but I just couldn’t listen to them.
So many emotions ran through me. How could my son just give up like that? How could he not step up to the plate and be the man I raised him to be? How could the mom just delete me with no explanation? You have to understand. My son has a heart of gold and swore all the time if he ever had a baby he would do everything for it. But, after my mom passed away my son changed. He put up a wall around his heart and has not let anyone else in. I’m in constant prayer for him and I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that God will restore his heart and he will be the man of God he was created to be!!! but for now he is living for himself.
Well, my grand-daughter was born on May 20, 2011 and the only pictures I saw was when the mom would send pictures of her to my daughter Brianna. She was a spitting image of Brianna and there was NO denying she was my son’s daughter.
There were so many times I wrote a letter to the Mom, only to delete it and re write it. Looking back over the last 1 1/2 yrs. I can see how with each letter I wrote more healing came. Months would go by and when I went back into write again I would find that what I was feeling on the last note was gone and now something new was coming up to the surface.
It was a continual washing by the word of God! It was simply amazing!
About a month ago the mom requested me on Facebook again. I was soooo EXCITED that whole day because I knew God was working out a miracle right before my eyes. I quickly accepted her friend request and went through all the pictures of my beautiful Grand Daughter Orion. Oh she is just so precious and a true gift from God.
Then guess what happened???
The mom wanted me to meet Orion before they moved up to Virginia to live with my son Shane. So she came to visit this past weekend and stayed with us.
The whole weekend I just kept Praising God! Throughout the course of this walk I followed the Holy Spirit. I allowed myself to be led by God and not my emotions. Do you know how hard it was to sit back and do nothing? Knowing I have a grand-daughter out there that I should be a part of her life.
So many times we allow our emotions to rule us and what we feel should happen. When we do this we miss the opportunity of God working everything out for our good and HIS glory. This miracle had nothing to do with anything I did because I never sent any of those letters. God never allowed me to, he never led me to, they were for my healing, for my growth and for my faith to grow. I prayed God would allow me to be a part of my grand daughters life in his perfect timing and no matter what timing that would be I would trust him. This reminds me of the following scripture. I prayed
But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6:6
I had the most amazing weekend getting to know my grand-daughter Orion and her Mommy. God couldn’t have chosen a better Mommy for her. I felt like she was one of my daughters and was so proud of the way she was raising Orion. Oh and Orion has the sweetest spirit and just makes me want to grab those chubby cheeks and squeeze them. I loved, hugged and kissed all over her. We went to the park and just enjoyed the time we had together.
My prayer for you today is that you would have the strength to follow the Holy Spirit no matter what he’s telling you to do. That you would be able to discern between your emotions and the Holy Spirit. That while waiting for your prayer to be answered in the open your faith would grow as well as your relationship with our heavenly father. In Jesus name – Amen!
Is there a prayer you’ve prayed in the secret place that God has answered openly for you? I’d love to hear all about it.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime
On Day 2 of #30DaysofPraise I am most thankful for the friends God has strategically placed in my life for these past 40 years (still can’t believe I’m writing that number lol). Looking back over the years I can see how each friend contributed to my life and how they helped me grow stronger in my faith. Whether it be because they stood with me in prayer, gave me words of encouragement, prayed for me and my family, cried with me, gave me a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen and a heart to love me right where I was at, they have always been there.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
Oh how I love this verse and how true it is.
I remember a time in my life where all hell was breaking loose. Financially we were struggling, I was homeschooling my daughter, my son had dropped out of school and wanted to go live with his dad in Maryland, my mom had passed away and I felt like the whole world was caving in on me.
One of many breaking points for me was when I got a call that my son had been arrested. Here I was working with the youth in our community trying to show them there is a better way and my son is out hanging with the wrong crowd and gets arrested.
I immediately go into a horrible depression and blame myself for how he turned and what a horrible mom I was.
All I wanted to do was die that night but my husband called my best friend to come over and she didn’t think twice. Her and her husband came right over.
Now I’ll be honest, I was mortified! I didn’t want anyone to see me in this state! I didn’t want anyone to judge me! I didn’t need anyone telling me it was going to be alright! I just wanted to be left alone…to die…to make all the hurt and pain stop!
The love of this very special friend reached through all that turmoil and embraced me. I don’t remember if we prayed that night but I know she went into prayer for me and called all our other prayer warriors to be in prayer.
It didn’t happen immediately but over the next few days God opened my eyes to the love that he has for me and the people he has placed in my life to help hold up my hands in praise to him when all I want to do is run and hide. Sorta of reminds me of the scripture where Aaron and Hur helped Moses hold his arms up so that Joshua could defeat the army of Amalek in battle.
Moses’ arms soon became so tired he could no longer hold them up. So Aaron and Hur found a stone for him to sit on. Then they stood on each side of Moses, holding up his hands. So his hands held steady until sunset. Exodus 17:12
This friend, along with the other friends who were praying for me, helped me defeat the spirit of depression and suicide that day. It’s not to say I have not battled with those spirits again but with every battle I get stronger and stronger.
In this time of reflection and thankfulness I have come to realize that it’s God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit that are the ultimate friends. Think about it…God is the one that puts it on the hearts of our friends to pray for us, to call us, to check in on us, but most importantly not to judge but to love us right where we’re at.
HOW AWESOME IS THAT!!!
He knows what we need even before we ask and he sends us friends along the way that deposit the very thing we need into our lives for us to keep on going. <3
I pray today that if you have friends that are there for you in the most darkest times of your life, that pray for you without judgement and gossip, that share in your triumphs and tragedies, hold on to them, cherish them and give God the praise for bringing them into your life.
If you have not found that friendship, call on Jesus today! He’s there waiting to comfort you and to be your friend. I promise he is greater than any friend you’ve ever had or will have and he will send you the PERFECT friends to help hold your arms up in Praise to him.
Train a child in the way he should go; and, even when old, he will not depart from it ~ Proverbs 22:6
This keeps coming to mind as I’m raising teenagers. Maybe it can help some of you that are raising teenagers or even pre-teens for that matter also.
My son came home from school one day, with a smirk upon his face. He decided he was smart enough, to put me in my place.
Guess what I learned in Civics Two, that’s taught by Mr. Wright?
It’s all about the laws today,
The “Children’s Bill of Rights.”
It says I need not clean my room,
don’t have to cut my hair.
No one can tell me what to think,
or speak, or what to wear.
I have freedom from religion,
and regardless what you say,
I don’t have to bow my head,
and I sure don’t have to pray.
I can wear earrings if I want, and pierce my tongue & nose.
I can read & watch just what I like,
get tattoos from head to toe.
And if you ever spank me,
I’ll charge you with a crime.
I’ll back up all my charges,
with the marks on my behind.
Don’t you ever touch me, my body’s only for my use, not for your hugs and kisses,
that’s just more child abuse.
Don’t preach about your morals, like your Mama did to you.
That’s nothing more than mind control,
And it’s illegal too!
Mom, I have these children’s rights,
so you can’t influence me
or I’ll call Department of Children and Families,
better know as D.C.F.
Of course my first instinct was
to toss him out the door.
But the chance to teach him a lesson
made me think a little more.
I mulled it over carefully,
I couldn’t let this go.
A smile crept upon my face,
he’s messing with a pro.
Next day I took him shopping
at the local Goodwill Store.
I told him, “Pick out all you want,
there’s shirts & pants galore.
I’ve called and checked with D.C.F.
who said they didn’t care
if I bought you K-Mart shoes
instead of those Nike Airs.
I’ve canceled that appointment
to take your driver’s test.
the D.C.F. is unconcerned
so I’ll decide what’s best.
I said “No time to stop and eat,
or pick up stuff to munch.
And tomorrow you can start to learn
to make your own sack lunch.
Just save the raging appetite,
and wait till dinner time.
We’re having liver and onions,
a favorite dish of mine.
He asked “Can I please rent a movie,
to watch on my VCR?
“Sorry, but I sold your TV,
for new tires on my car.
I also rented out your room,
you’ll take the couch instead.
The D.C.F. requires
just a roof over your head.
Your clothing won’t be trendy now,
I’ll choose what we eat.
That allowance that you used to get,
will buy me something neat.
I’m selling off your jet ski,
dirt-bike & roller blades.
Check out the “Parents Bill of Rights,”
It’s in effect today!
Hey hot shot, are you crying,
why are you on your knees?
Are you asking God to help you out,
instead of D.C.F..?
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