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Breaking Soul Ties and Restoring your Soul

What are soul ties?

Soul ties are formed between two people when they have a relationship with one another. This relationship can be between family members, friends, co-workers, pastors and others. This soul tie is also formed when you have a sexual relationship with someone.

When you get into a relationship your soul and another person’s soul become connected. The soul is the mind, will and emotions of a person. The number one way of this is through a sexual relationship. The word of God declares that when a man and woman marry (come together sexually) they become one flesh. A part of their soul, which is the mind, will and emotions transfer to each other so that they each have a part of the other persons’ soul, ultimately giving up a part of their own. As a person goes through life, this happens with every person that relationship is formed with and with every relationship; a part of their soul is removed and replaces with a part of the other person’s soul.

When a soul tie is formed, demons can travel back and forth through the soul tie. The soul tie can go back and forth from partners, or it may also travel on the generational bloodline through the soul tie of family.

Not all soul ties are unhealthy though. You can have a Godly soul tie that is blessed of God.

For instance marriage is a Godly soul tieGenesis 2:24 – “ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

This, to me, is such a beautiful picture of a man and woman having a Godly soul tie, that they shall come together to be ONE flesh.

Friendship is another Godly soul tie I Samuel 18:1 – “Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”

We know that Jonathan went on to protect David from his father Saul who sought to kill David but Jonathan loved David, as a friend and brother and as his own soul. What an amazing friend and how blessed we are when we find a friend like that.

It’s when we have ungodly soul ties that we get ourselves in trouble opening up the door for Satan to wreck havoc in our lives.

Ungodly soul ties

If someone is controlling you or you’re having a hard time breaking free from that person then it’s pretty safe to say that you have an ungodly soul tie that needs to be broken. You ever notice when you start hanging around someone a lot you tend to talk like them, act like them and will even start to have the same body language of them? You’ve got some soul ties with that person that need to be broken.

Some ungodly soul ties can be formed through the following relationships:

1. Sexual relations outside of marriage

2. Adulterous relationship

3. Homosexual relationship

4. Between parents and their children

5. Between siblings

6. Ungodly friends

7. Co-workers

A Prayer to break soul ties and restore the soul

To get your soul restored and to get any spirits out of you that may have come in through these soul ties you will need to ask the Holy Spirit of God and the angels to aid in this. The following prayer will lead you in repentance, forgiveness, healing, deliverance and the restoration of your soul.

Father I come before you in the might name of Jesus and by the power of His shed blood for me. Father I ask for your Holy Spirit to bring to my mind every person that I have an ungodly soul tie with. I recognize sexual relationships outside of marriage as sin. I now confess my sin of this relationship with _________________(fill in the blank with every person that the Holy Spirit brings to your mind but do these steps for each person individually). I renounce right now this relationship and the sin of this relationship and I ask Father for your forgiveness. I now send the angels of the Lord to go to that person right now and remove from them any part of my soul that they may have and to remove from me any part of their soul that I may have and restore those parts back to their rightful place. I now command any and all demons that may have come into me from this sin and soul tie to leave me now in the name of Jesus and to go where the Lord Jesus Christ sends you.

Continue to do this until the Holy Spirit confirms in you that you are free and that your soul is restored. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you any other areas where there is bondage in your life and confess the sin, break the curse, cast out the spirits operating on the curse and ask the Holy Spirit to fill the places that the demons have vacated.

Rekindling Childlike Wonder

Rekindling Childlike Wonder

Since Thanksgiving and continuing into the month of December, my husband Gary and I have been enjoying watching Christmas-themed movies and other programs.  One of our seasonal favorites is “Elf“, starring Will Ferrell.   If any actor or actress captured the essence of being filled with silliness and a sense of child-like wonder, Will Farrell did, as the over-grown elf named Buddy who eventually won over everyone who initially found his  innocent behavior to be extremely annoying.

In the same week, I stumbled upon the 75th anniversary of Radio City Music Hall’s Christmas Spectacular starring the world-renown Rockettes.   I dare say it was  probably just as good, if not better, seeing it aired on our large flat screened TV, than being there in person, because of all the great camera angles, some which took you right up on stage, than you’d ever see from your theater seat.  What especially warmed my heart was when the cameras would pan the audience and capture the faces of the many children watching the show, with their eyes wide and their little mouths gaped open as they took in all the magic happening right before them, and exhibiting that unmistakable look of awe-struck wonder.

As children, it’s easy to wonder about so many things – we’re young and there’s always some new marvel grabbing our attention, so to be in a state of wonder is not something that has to be conjured up – it just comes naturally.  But as we grow older and face many of life’s challenges and the daily grind, we tend to lose our sense of wonder just trying to make it from one day to the next.  I was in just such a place of outright weariness when at the age of 41, the magical feeling of wonder took me by surprise when I made my very first visit to Disney World where my husband had made reservations for us to stay at The Wilderness Lodge.  When we first walked into that palatial four-story structure made entirely of logs, which had been trimmed to the brim for the Christmas season, the sense of wonder struck me so hard, it was as if someone had suddenly thrown me a 25 pound medicine ball, that for several minutes I was truly speechless as I slowly turned in a 360 degree circle and I took it all in; and I’m sure how I felt at that moment must of been the same as any five year old at the sight of the Magic Kingdom on that very same day!  My husband had visited Disney World many times before, so for him, his thrill and delight was seeing the awe and wonder on my face and in my eyes.

I think as we grow older we have to make more of an effort to find and put into  practice the “art of wonder”, and thankfully, having children and grandchildren helps us rekindle wonder as we watch and experience with them, as my husband did with my reaction at The Wilderness Lodge, all things new.

And I don’t think God ever wants His children to lose their sense of wonder.  Just as parents and grandparents delight in the wonder of their little ones, so too, I believe God delights when we wonder in Him and about Him, which got me to thinking about snowflakes the other day, which, in turn, reminded me of these scripture verses,

Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made”,  John 1:3

For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities–his eternal power and divine naturehave been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse”, Romans 1:20

My childhood years were spent in the northeast and every winter we had tremendous amounts of snow and there were some days, when the conditions were just right, while it was still snowing, I’d go outside, all bundled up, and catch crystallized snowflakes in my opened  hand.  I’d look ever so closely at those tiny, fragile flakes of snow and could actually see the intricate six pointed designs with my naked eye!   Even if I had stood outside all day long and captured thousands of them, each one of them would of been different from any other snowflake that fell that day, from all the snowflakes that ever fell, all over the world, since time began!   The more I contemplated this, the more the wonder grew and my eyes got wider and my jaw dropped and I’m thinking that my Heavenly Father was taking just as much delight in my reaction, as I was in His creation!  That’s the wonder our Abba Father wants us to revel in – these are His invisible attributes. His eternal power,  His divine nature which are clearly seen in a single snowflake!

So, as we peer into the manger and set our gaze upon the babe, the One through whom all things were made, may our sense of wonder fill our hearts that will take us far beyond this Christmas season, and even more so… may be renewed by the “Wonder Of His Love”.





God sees every tear we cry

God sees every tear we cry

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You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. ~ Psalm 56:8

My mom use to tell me all the time that God knew every tear I ever shed and he put them all in a bottle. I knew she got this little pearl of wisdom from the bible but I could never find that scripture…until today!

As I was looking over my Instagram feed I ran across the picture above. But what caught my attention was what is written below it. (see screenshot to the right)  The Psalm talks about how God keeps track of all our sorrows, which turn into tears most of the time, and he saves them in a bottle.

Psalm 56:9-11 goes on to say…
My enemies will retreat when I call to you for help.
This I know: God is on my side!
I praise God for what he has promised;
yes, I praise the Lord for what he has promised.
I trust in God, so why should I be afraid?
What can mere mortals do to me?

As I was meditating on this scripture the following came to me…

For all the times you have cried…He shall turn your sorrow/tears into joy (Psalms 126:5)
For all the times you were depressed…He shall comfort you in your afflictions (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)
For all the times you have felt betrayed…He shall remain loyal to you (Isaiah 54:10)
For all the times you have felt alone…He shall never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5)
For all the times you have felt anger…He shall give you a peace that passes all understanding and will guard your hearts and your minds (Philippians 4:7)
For all the times you have felt fear…He has given you a spirit of power love and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7)
For all the times you have felt unloved or uncared for…Don’t you know you are the apple of his eye and nothing can ever separate you from the love of our heavenly Father? (Deuteronomy 32:10)(Romans 8:38-39)
For all the times you have felt hopelessness…He has given you eternal life (2 Corinthians 4:16-18)

For every tear you have or will shed God has promised you these things. Only he knows those times you have wailed uncontrollably while no one was looking. Only he knows the prayers you have cried out to him. Only he knows your heart and only he knows the ANSWERS! 🙂

While writing this post one song keeps coming to mind. Praise you in this Storm by Casting Crowns.
A friend of mine sent this song to me the day I was leaving to go see my mom for what would be the last time on this earth. She was diagnosed with cancer in November 2005 and on my birthday August 9, 2006, the family came to visit her. I played this song over and over and the entire time I kept thinking about what my Momma said about all my tears being bottled up.

I cried an ocean that day and much more after but you know what???

God comforted me…Strengthened me…Encouraged me…Loved me…Held me and NEVER EVER left my side!

Read some of the Best Selling Books on coping with death and grief.

Whatever you are facing today please hear my heart when I say God is so much greater than your circumstances and he will always be right there beside you to comfort you when the tears are flowing!

If there is anything I can pray for you please let me know. You can leave your prayer request in the comments below or if it’s just to hard to share with others what you are going through then please contact me personally and I will pray with/for you.

Remember you’re not in this fight alone. God always sends the helpers 😉 

Letting Go…

Letting Go…

My wonderful sister Melissa posted this in her notes section of Facebook the other day and I can’t help but to keep going back to it and reading it over and over and over again.

This was one of my mom’s many clippings she had that spoke volumes to her. I’m finding it’s in these clippings that she found much wisdom and passed it onto us six kids.

Whether it be in our personal or professional lives there are times that we come to the realization that letting go is the only way to move forward.

To let go does not mean I stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.

To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more
To let go and to let God, is to find peace!

I hope and pray that when you find yourself having to choose between letting go or holding on that God would give you the strength to let go. In letting go, you’re actually moving forward!